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REFLECTIONS, GROWTH & A LITTLE TEA ☕✨

Hi, beautiful people! 💕

I hope life is treating you like the kings and queens that you are. 👑 How was your long weekend? I hope it was amazing! For me, it was the best—I finally started my crocheting project, and I can’t wait to show you what I’ve accomplished. 🧶✨

But today, I have a lot to share with you, especially about my love life. I realize I haven’t talked much about my romantic relationships, and well, today is the day for some real talk. Grab your tea, because we’re diving in! ☕

Before we get to that, though, let me tell you something funny. My supervisor recently told me that I don’t know the difference between pronouncing ‘r’ and ‘l.’ Can you believe that? 🤯 I was shocked, but if he noticed it, maybe it’s true. Crazy, right? Anyway, let’s leave him out of this—he’s definitely not my favorite person in this organization. 😆

Now, back to the main story. This weekend, I had a moment of reflection and realized something big: I have spent years allowing the bare minimum in relationships and even friendships. I went out of my way to make others comfortable, only to be taken for granted. I started thinking about the guys I dated—honestly, what was I even doing? 🤦🏽‍♀️

Let me tell you about one of them. Imagine this—I was dating a guy who went two or three days without talking to me. Naturally, I got worried. I knew he wasn’t dead because our mutual friends would have told me, but why wasn’t he answering his phone? I prayed, stressed over it, and finally, on the third day, he resurfaced. And do you know what his excuse was? Brace yourself. He said, “I’m sorry, babe. I just didn’t feel like talking to you.” 😳

Excuse me? I couldn’t believe I had accepted that nonsense. I even responded, “Okay, but why didn’t you just tell me? I would have given you space if you needed it.” Looking back, I wonder why I tolerated such treatment. I mean, I know I’m beautiful and successful, so why was I settling for less? All I ever wanted was someone who cared about me emotionally, and yet all I got was neglect and emotional abuse. 💔

That relationship only lasted three months, but I regretted it within the first week. Deep down, I knew he wasn’t the one, but I held onto the idea that maybe, just maybe, he would change into my ideal boyfriend. Physically, he had everything I wanted—tall, handsome, the whole package. But mentally? He was immature beyond measure. Honestly, he was the definition of despair in a relationship. And trust me, I won’t miss him. 🙅🏽‍♀️

It has been two years since we broke up, and I have zero regrets about leaving him behind. Growth is such a beautiful thing! 🌱✨

Oh, before I forget—I got new braids! 😍 I’ll share some pictures soon. I also have a blank picture,


 my to-do list, 


next time, I’ll have even more to share. 📸


I hope you all have a fantastic week ahead! I’ll try to post at least three blogs this week if possible. Fingers crossed! 🤞🏽

Bye for now—I love you all! You’re the reason I write. 💖

Comments

  1. ArseneApril 4, 2025 at 5:44 PM

    thank you for the to-do-list, that's all i needed to laugh hysterically thank you, thank you!

    nukuri i missed your sweet blogs.

    sometimes when i'm praying, i include you in my prayers, specifically your health.

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